After surviving not one, but two polar vortices last month, I’m
running away going to be away from the blog for the coming week to somewhere more suitable for human habitation to replenish my vitamin D reserves for the rest of the winter. Not to leave you hanging, I’ve asked my good friend at Spy Garden to fill today! I love her adventurous approach to gardening (it’s what she’d do during a zombie apocalypse!), and the way she cultivates a love of gardening in her children matches up perfectly with this week’s 12 Weeks of Garden Inspiration theme. After you’ve read her awesome post here, be sure to check out her blog, too!
I am so pleased Maria asked me to write a guest post for Sweet Domesticity and share some tips on gardening with children. Even if you don’t have kids, taking a “child-like” approach to gardening is great for beginners. Even a gardener with a lot of experience can gain a new perspective when gardening from a kid’s point of view.
Here’s a picture of my tiny gardener destroying some marigolds learning about plants:
It would first appear she has a black thumb. After all, she is breaking plants apart and tearing the leaves to pieces. However, I would argue she has more gardening experience and understanding than most because she knows the number one most important thing about gardening. Here it is (along with a couple of other tips):
Don’t be afraid of killing plants. For each of the plants thriving in Spy Garden, two (or maybe more) are looking down from plant heaven. Cutworms have eaten my cauliflower plants, flea beetles have gnawed up my eggplants. All the marigolds planted in two large planters have been destroyed by my two year old “Babyzilla.” I tried growing three different varieties of eggplants in 2013: started the seedlings indoors in February, with nary an eggplant in sight by October. Does this mean I will never try growing cauliflower or eggplants again? No!
Don’t get too frustrated when you kill plants. And if you are gardening with kids, don’t get mad at them when they (perhaps more swiftly) kill your plants. Encourage them to pick the red tomatoes (vs. the green ones) and to be gentle in the garden. But, if they rip a bean plant out of the ground, let it go. I mean, I wouldn’t encourage pure destruction, but a broken stem or some torn leaves are small sacrifices in cultivating (pun intended) a love of plants.
“Look Mommy, here’s one that’s not ripe!”
No matter how much you learn about gardening (from books, online articles, etc.) the bulk of the learning must take place in the actual garden. Every plot of soil and site is different and a plant that will thrive in one garden, may do poorly in another. Even in the same town! Every season is also different, so if a particular variety doesn’t do well one year, don’t be afraid to try it again. Don’t focus too much on searching for “how to” advice on gardening, and just experiment.
Even growing just a few plants provides valuable lessons for children of all ages.
Questions like: How long does it take from seed to plate? What types of animals live in the dirt? What do birds (or deer!) like to eat? All will naturally be investigated when you’re in the garden. Even when you are not actively “teaching,” kids will observe thousands of aspects of your local ecosystem and truly learn about “real” food. Not to mention that, in my experience, kids are about 300 times more likely to be adventurous eaters when they have a hand in growing it.
“Mmmm! Kale flowers!”
The same lessons the kids are learning, you learn right along with them. Often kids have insights and observations they share with you while you are together in the garden that create really special moments where you gain a deeper perspective of gardening (and life!)
Grow the things that you can’t kill. Asparagus and strawberries are very low maintenance perennials. Mint, catnip, thyme (and most herbs) are great choices. Even if you don’t use the herbs you grow (and I definitely confess on this point that I don’t harvest and use my herbs nearly as much as I should) having something green and thriving in your garden will get you more excited about gardening.
Most kids love mint. So it’s not about whether or not you really like mint in cooking. Just grow mint, because it will grow. It is always one of the first green things in our garden and therefore a staple snack in early spring garden walks with the kids.
In addition to growing “things you can’t kill” also try growing lots of different things (as much as you have room for). Squash may be devoured by squash bugs one year that your tomatoes are beefy and prolific. Beans may be doing awesome when your lettuce is burnt to a crisp. Even though starting plants from seeds is a bit more work, it is a LOT cheaper, and if you are following rule #1, you don’t want your sacrifices to be expensive exotic specimens from a designer nursery. Plus with seeds you get a ton more plants (and because of the law of attrition (#1!) this is a great thing! I always encourage the kids to choose the things we grow.
Now in February, I asked my family to name their favorite varieties looking back on the 2013 season:
My eight year old son said, “lemon cucumbers”.
My husband (who is definitely a child at heart) said “cantelopes” (he’s referring to “Delice de la Table”)
And I will go ahead and speak for our two and a half year old and say “Yellow Wonder Wild Strawberries” since…
She is still checking the plants through the winter for fruit! A few more months to go!
My favorite were the “Violet de Provence artichokes” The spy gobbled down the prepared hearts (without ANY salt/pepper/lemon/etc: they were delectable!) But the ones that we left to “go to flower” were so beautiful and striking and added a lot of whimsy and magic to the garden, which makes it inviting to children.
Nasturtiums are also a great choice for kids because the flowers and leaves are edible. And on that point, I try and ONLY have edibles in the garden (since the baby grew accustomed to sampling EVERYTHING, I wanted to make sure there was nothing poisonous in the garden (i.e. moonflowers, morning glories).
Take “Garden Walks”. There are often several weeks that go by where I do absolutely NOTHING in the garden. But that doesn’t mean I’m not in the garden frequently. We take family “garden walks” just about every day, in all seasons. This will help you to get to know the plants you are growing and get your kids into the habit of being in and LOOKING closely at the different aspects of the garden. Sure there are a few days where gardening is a bit more labor intensive (30 minutes of digging here, an hour of planting or weeding there) but I would say that I learn the most in the observations we make on the frequent “garden walks.”
Some sights from our garden walks:
Planning for the spring garden starts now! So if you’ve ever toyed with the idea of growing something but convinced yourself you have a black thumb, just remember rule number one!
Photos and text: Spy Garden; used with permission